Being a new parent is not easy, mistakes can happen. The most important thing is to want to learn to care for and educate children better so that he grows physically and psychologically healthy. By knowing the restrictions in raising your child, we can avoid foster care.
Of course, parenting skills don't just naturally arise. Step by step, parents will learn new things and learn from mistakes.
Father and Mother, try to see ways to optimize the health and well-being of the baby for the long term by understanding the following 7 taboos.
1. Never Forget to Wash Your Hands Before Handling a Baby!
Newborns do not have a strong immune system so they are vulnerable to infection. Make sure everyone who holds the baby has washed his hands clean.
2. Never Let the Baby Cry Continue!
Imagine if we have urgent needs, feel uncomfortable or sick, but are ignored when we need help. That's about the feeling of a baby while crying and parents do not immediately handle it. This situation can be even worse because the baby is learning the pattern of social life and physiological functions of the body as the brain system is developing rapidly.
With such developments, it is no doubt that the baby feels tortured when he is allowed to cry all the time. Do not let this situation continue for fear that later the baby will get used to being a person who is full of anxiety and does not have trust, both to themselves and others. Without realizing it, he will grow into someone who is easily stressed, selfish, and not easy to adjust.
Remember, Father and Mother, that 75 percent of children's brain development occurs in their first years. Sadness felt by the baby in the long term can kill brain synapses, which are brain tissue that should have developed at that time.
Be sure to calm the baby down immediately when he cries, check what he needs. Is he thirsty, just pooped, or so on. Better yet, prevent him from crying by paying attention to his body gestures, for example he suddenly looks restless, beating his arms, pouting, or grimacing. In addition, feed the baby as often as possible. When he is full, calm him down by holding him, swinging, or gently patting his body. Babies expect the presence of feelings of Father and Mother by skin contact, hearing parents sing or talk to him.
3. Never Ignore Babies!
Under natural birth conditions, newborn babies are ready to communicate with Mother and Father, including others. A study shows that communication that is responsive to each other over time will create the most positive results, such as awareness, friendship skills, and prosocial behavior (as opposed to antisocial). Mutual responsiveness means that parents and children influence each other by building cooperative relationships. For example, Father and Mother whisper words that are comforting, singing, giving a touch of affection, soothing the baby, and sensitive to the signals given by the baby.
In addition, do not forget to hug and cuddle often because the baby is destined to be hugged. This must begin immediately and be familiarized. Through a hug, he will capture a strong first impression about the Mother and the world. If not often hugged with affection, he will find it difficult to calm down. In addition, if the baby is separated from the Mother or not in his arms, the baby's brain will activate a response resembling discomfort.
4. Never Underestimate the Warm Temperature in the Baby's Body!
Some parents may only consider a baby's warm body temperature as natural and directly provide heat-lowering drugs. Herein lies the fault of parents. Infants under the age of three months can be in serious danger if they have a fever of more than 38 ° C, unless it occurs within 24 hours after being immunized. Naturally, a newborn's body has not been able to overcome the infection. Therefore, if your baby's body feels warm, immediately measure it with a thermometer. If the temperature is above 38 ° C, it is advisable to immediately see a doctor.
5. Never Shake Baby's Body!
Shaking the baby's body strongly can cause bleeding in the brain and even death. If Father or Mother needs to wake the baby, simply by tickling her feet or blowing her cheeks gently, there is no need to shake her body. Babies are also not ready for rough play, such as rocking over an adult's knee or being thrown into the air.
6. Never Leave the Baby Alone!
Babies are created with the feeling of being connected to those who care for them, so don't leave the baby alone. If you intend to go to the toilet or something else, ask for help from your father or relatives to accompany the baby for a while. Babies don't understand why they are alone. In addition, confining a baby alone will be the worst decision a parent can make because it can trigger psychosis in infants. Furthermore, the baby's hunch will believe that something is wrong and will eventually be remembered constantly.
7. Never Punish Baby!
Some parents hit or slap their baby because they are upset or something. The negative effects of punishment on children will last in the long run. Here are some of the damaging effects of physical punishment.
- Punishment will activate the stress response in children. This is not recommended, especially at the beginning of a child's life because it can be embedded in a permanent hyperactive system associated with damage to intellectual development and mental health of children, stress, and difficulty undergoing social relationships.
- Babies will learn that it is better to suppress their interests near parents so that they affect communication with parents.
- Based on evidence in a study, children become more naughty after experiencing physical punishment.
- Punishment can damage a child's learning motivation.
- Babies lack faith in the love and care of parents.
- Babies lack confidence in themselves.
Remember that babies learn to live by the way they are treated and what they are left to do. Parents who are responsive and warm towards children are one of the best predictors that a child can be a positive person, like being able to get along with others and excel at school.
It is true that caring for and educating babies takes a lot of time, energy and money. That is why the phrase 'one village is needed to raise a child' is not necessarily overrated because sometimes in fact Mother and Father alone are not enough to care for him. Therefore, if you feel tired and frustrated, don't hesitate to ask for the help of a trusted relative, grandmother, or someone. Even so, asking for help does not mean giving up childcare responsibilities. Continue to monitor the child's development at any time.
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